I dislike it when people make judgment, or automatically evaluate people without ever getting to know them. I know love creates expectations but when you truly love someone expectations shouldn’t matter. When you have expectations, you have preconceived ideas of how things should be, and it doesn’t work that way. Expectations create fear because you think what you desire may or may not happen.To many people make prior choices of who they already want to go out with, or who they can see themselves with, that when the time comes for them to find the one, it’s a complete opposite. Expectations kill the nature of love, the more you anticipate something from your loved one, the more it’s less likely to happen. We must learn to distinguish between expectations and needs. Nothing good comes out of it, expectations need the right mix of compassion and love.
Without proper understanding, expectations will always disappoint. When you first meet someone, you can’t have expectations on them, you have to get to know them as a person first to see what they’re all about. You never know, that person might be the possible love of our life’s, but since we’re so worried about what we want, and not what we need, we let it pass right by us. Always try to keep an open mind, and an open heart when it comes to meeting people, or developing relationships. Never expect to much to the point where you’re hopes are to high, but always keep that window of opportunity open. Some of the people in the best relationships, are with people they would had never imagined being with. Expect your lover to love you, don’t expect them to love you in the way you want them to, accept the way they show their love. <3
And just like that I’ll never let you fall, I might be far but my arms, words and comfort will never be out of reach. There will never be a day where I won’t be there for you. I get it, I really do. Sometimes in life, things are not meant to be, things aren’t meant to last and I’m okay with that, we all have to be okay with that, I’ve always been okay with that, I just want you to know that I’m always here. I am here to do the things other people won’t, and to be that person other people don’t wanna be. I’m always here to support you and congratulate you in your achievements. Whether it be on your relationship status, or on your goals for your future or whatever it may be that you’re pursuing, know that I’m happy for you.
Know that I will be the one to catch you when you fall. And the one to hold your hand when your world falls apart. I’ll be there to make you smile in times of tears. I’ll listen to anything you have to say. I’ll pick you up, when your boyfriend decides to leave. I’ll even text first, if you’re afraid of being a burden. Time will progress and so will our age, so I feel that it’s important I let you know now that I love you. We will always be close, and the caring will always be there and that will always remain intact. Know that, you can forget and move on from a past with history, but you can’t erase the history from the past. I stand here just letting you know, that you can always confide in me. When all else fails, and you feel like you can’t go on anymore, remember me, for I will be here. I promise. <3
I’ve always wondered if we tend to look for people once night time comes rolling in. You know what I mean? Like when we’re alone in the house, when our friends are sleeping, when no one picks up, I think we all one way or another wish we had someone in our lives at night time. Someone to be there, someone to answer, someone to cuddle with. Whether it’s a girlfriend, a friend, or a boyfriend, we want someone. When things get quiet, when the sounds of the day die down, when the thoughts we’ve been keeping out of our minds come creeping in, when we’re laying down on our beds staring at the laptop, when we’re scrolling through our phones looking for someone to text or call, we’re wishing and hoping someone will be out there. I think we look for someone to have on the phone, someone to hear us out, someone to fall asleep with, it’s reassuring and securing knowing someone is there. It’s not that we don’t like them during the day, it’s that it’s more beautiful and meaningful to have someone there at night. <3
Guys, show her by your actions that you’re the one for her. Be that guy who makes her fall in love. Be that guy who lets her know that all guys aren’t the same. Make her smile, do things with her, tell her you love her. Play with her, massage her, let her know she’s special. Let her get it, let her finally put the pieces to the puzzle together. Make her finally get love. Show her, tell her that when you look into her eyes she’s the greatest girl you’ve ever seen. Cherish her and she shall do the same. Love her and she’ll love you more. Treat her right and she’ll treat you better. It’s a girls nature to often care more and love, make it the opposite. You should care more and love more, so she can do nothing but smile, so she can love you even more. <3
I want you and me, I want us. I want holding hands, I want laying down on the ground, looking each other in the eye. I want hugs, and kisses. I want all of the simple things, don’t expect to be lavished in gifts, don’t expect me to compliment you every minute of every day. I don’t need perfection, nor do I need things to be romantic and sweet all the time, I just want us to smile when we have moments of pure bliss. I want to give us a fair chance. I want to be able to call you mine, and I want to be able to say I’m yours. I just want to give it a shot, that’s all. <3
Time is key ladies, when you love someone and they’ve broken you heart, you must know when it is time to let go. As hard as this may sound, strength, courage and knowledge is gathered from a broken heart. No one promised that love would last forever, nor that it wouldn’t, it’s just a chance. Life is a chance. Love yourself and hope all is well, not only for you, but for that person as well. Never let bad feelings or experience change the person you are. No one wants to see a wounded person, so understand that you need time to heal internally. There is no set time on when this will happen, but just let it take it’s course.
When the time is right, and you feel like you are ready to love again, don’t look for it, let it find you. It’s not about getting over a person, it’s about feeling good about yourself. It’s about knowing that you are the most important and you need to be happy. When you accept yourself as you are and you love yourself for who you are then you will find that back. Never settle for anything less then what you desire and deserve. Love is all about timing, make yourself the best person you can be both mentally and physically. Once you heal, you will no longer waste your time on men who do not see you for who you are. You will see yourself as a beautiful women that has so much to offer the right man. <3
Each of us likes to do certain things that our partners don’t like and for that we need to give each other space. It is important to spend quality time together but it is equally important to give space to each other as well. You always have to encourage and give space to your partners, so they can do the things they like. People in happy relationships aren’t with each other all the time, they give space to each other. Too much of sweet never gives you the taste of true love and too much of togetherness will eventually become to much.
You don’t have to be together all the time to keep your relationship intact. Be together yet give space to each other, so you can want to be together even more. Encourage each other to spend time for the things they like. Let your partner have fun, they need a social life. If you trust them, then it shouldn’t be a problem. There has to be an open positive exchange of trust. If you keep asking questions and always trying to keep an account of what they’re doing then you are actually not giving them space. There should be openness in your relationship so that both can spend time on their own without the guilt of ignoring each other. It has to be a mutual agreement. Never deprive yourself of the things you like as you will never be happy with yourself and your partner.
You need to love yourself first before you love somebody else. When you do the things you like, you become the individual that your partner loves you for. Give space to yourself and don’t lose your identity. All of us need time to understand and know ourselves better, to do the things we enjoy. It is the key to a healthy relationship. How can you miss your lover when you are always clinging to each other? You have to be apart to miss each other and know the depth of your love. It is only when you are away from your lover, when you realize how much you love and need them. <3
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